Have you ever noticed how much “easier” it is to live sad, upset, or complaining, than to be well, in fullness, and expressing good words? I ask this because life presents a sequence of facts, decisions, acts, reactions, causes, and consequences, and many times it does not allow our wishes and desires to prevail, and this causes anger, sadness, frustration, revolt, among other feelings.
This “cycle” of setbacks is established in our minds and installs the “modus operandi” of complaining and the famous phrases: “life is unfair”, “this only happens to me”, “this always happens to me”, “everything sucks”, etc., etc., etc. And then a kind of accommodation is created, which locks the person in this scenario. Other heavy words that come as absolute truths are: “I’m struggling a lot”, “I face a lion a day”, “every day is a struggle”, and so on.
Do you realize that this is not the battle we should fight? That this is a heavy flow that sets in and paralyzes, and causes the vision to become narrow and extremely pessimistic as if there were no other possibilities?
The real battle worth choosing to enter is for our happiness, which is actually fighting to build the best version of ourselves. This is indeed a daily “war” of construction, of self-observation and observation of our reality, of capturing the messages that the Universe sends us, of
seeking emotional healing, of overcoming false beliefs, of giving new meaning to events, of seeking a purpose to serve the world, of deep self-knowledge and permission to change every day and whenever necessary (who said that all this is easy?, but it is worth investing more than energy, quality time).
Begin to face life as a great gift and adversities as teachers that push us to grow (and who said it doesn’t hurt?) and not as enemies that come to punish us. Acquiring “weapons” for this battle is lawful and has enormous value. And the first ones are patience, self-care, and self-compassion.
The golden bite
This golden trinity greatly softens the not always positive contexts and gives us encouragement and strength to treat and support ourselves. It generates physical and mental wellbeing, and so we win many points in this battle of building our happiness.
Another powerful “weapon” is self-forgiveness, which eliminates from our lives once and for all the figure of the torturer and, consequently, the victim, who complains a lot and feels completely powerless. On the other hand, self-love is that surprise “weapon” that when you acquire it, you don’t know what the real effects will be, and it ends up radically changing your reality! Incredibly, there is a huge resistance to it, because we don’t learn from an early age what it is and, especially, its importance.
With all the “weapons” that I mentioned, and knowing which battle to enter, fight! Fight to lay the tiles of your path with much dedication and love for yourself, respecting your processes, leaving resistance to change aside, allowing yourself to grow and evolve daily, in a beautiful dynamic of lapidation, towards your best version, which will be hand in hand with happiness!
Let’s fight a good “war”?